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Not Tonight Dear, I Feel Fat: How to Stop Worrying About Your Body and Have Great Sex: The Sex Advice Book for Women with Body Image Issues
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"A must-read for women even if they're one of the lucky ones with no pressing body image issues, and couples who want to strengthen their relationships or just have more fun in bed." — Sex tips for women, Lifebytes books

Is Your Body Image Getting In The Way Of Intimacy And Desire?

Fifty percent of women put off sex—even when they're in the mood—because they feel too fat. Even normal- and below-normal-weight women can't seem to let go and enjoy themselves in bed because they're worried their bodies aren't good enough for their partners.

How A Bad Body Image Impacts Women's Sexual Desire.

Do you find yourself avoiding or postponing sex because you're too self-conscious about your body? Have you started putting "conditions" on sex—only with the lights out, only with cover-up clothing, only in positions that prevent your partner from seeing or touching perceived imperfections?

Not Tonight Dear, I Feel Fat will change your love life tonight with surprising solutions from the latest sex research. Find out proven ways to:

  • Shut off the negative thoughts about your body before, during and after sex.
  • Use sex techniques that will make you forget to "check" your thighs or worry about your partner seeing something you're ashamed of.
  • Stop panicking when your partner touches a body part you're self conscious about.
  • Stay present, attend to your pleasure and engage with your partner.
  • The Sex Drive Solution For Women Who Struggle With Body Image Issues

    Women with body image issues also experience a noticeable drop in their sexual desire. That's because negative body esteem creates low libido in women. By reducing sexual desire it helps them avoid the fear of being shamed in the bedroom. Not Tonight Dear provides the most innovative solutions for low libido, including these sex tips for women:

  • The 'Flicker Stage' technique—it'll make your sexual desire go from zero to sixty in minutes.
  • Situational and contextual 'cuing'—prompt your sex drive in conscious and subconscious ways. Read the comprehensive list of sex cues that might be right for you.
  • The "20/70" exercise—an exercise proven over and over to significantly, sometimes dramatically, raise sexual desire in low libido women—even in those taking antidepressants.
  • Learn How To Fully Enjoy Sex Without Worrying About How You Look

    Not Tonight Dear, I Feel Fat will help you build body confidence, heal your relationship and provide the blueprint for a vibrant, rewarding sex life. Remember, sex is not the reward for a perfect body. It's the reward for being human.

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    Is Your Body Image Getting In The Way Of Intimacy And Desire?

    Fifty percent of women put off sex—even when they're in the mood—because they feel too fat. Even normal- and below-normal-weight women can't seem to let go and enjoy themselves in bed because they're worried their bodies aren't good enough for their partners.

    How A Bad Body Image Impacts Women's Sexual Desire.

    Do you find yourself avoiding or postponing sex because you're too self-conscious about your body? Have you started putting "conditions" on sex—only with the lights out, only with cover-up clothing, only in positions that prevent your partner from seeing or touching perceived imperfections?

    Not Tonight Dear, I Feel Fat will change your love life tonight with surprising solutions from the latest sex research. Find out proven ways to:

  • Shut off the negative thoughts about your body before, during and after sex.
  • Use sex techniques that will make you forget to "check" your thighs or worry about your partner seeing something you're ashamed of.
  • Stop panicking when your partner touches a body part you're self conscious about.
  • Stay present, attend to your pleasure and engage with your partner.
  • The Sex Drive Solution For Women Who Struggle With Body Image Issues

    Women with body image issues also experience a noticeable drop in their sexual desire. That's because negative body esteem creates low libido in women. By reducing sexual desire it helps them avoid the fear of being shamed in the bedroom. Not Tonight Dear provides the most innovative solutions for low libido, including these sex tips for women:

  • The 'Flicker Stage' technique—it'll make your sexual desire go from zero to sixty in minutes.
  • Situational and contextual 'cuing'—prompt your sex drive in conscious and subconscious ways. Read the comprehensive list of sex cues that might be right for you.
  • The "20/70" exercise—an exercise proven over and over to significantly, sometimes dramatically, raise sexual desire in low libido women—even in those taking antidepressants.
  • Learn How To Fully Enjoy Sex Without Worrying About How You Look

    Not Tonight Dear, I Feel Fat will help you build body confidence, heal your relationship and provide the blueprint for a vibrant, rewarding sex life. Remember, sex is not the reward for a perfect body. It's the reward for being human.

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    Is Your Body Image Getting In The Way Of Intimacy And Desire?

    Fifty percent of women put off sex—even when they're in the mood—because they feel too fat. Even normal- and below-normal-weight women can't seem to let go and enjoy themselves in bed because they're worried their bodies aren't good enough for their partners.

    How A Bad Body Image Impacts Women's Sexual Desire.

    Do you find yourself avoiding or postponing sex because you're too self-conscious about your body? Have you started putting "conditions" on sex—only with the lights out, only with cover-up clothing, only in positions that prevent your partner from seeing or touching perceived imperfections?

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    CONTENTS

    Introduction

    Section One: Do These Thoughts Make Me Look Fat?

    1. Why Dieting and Exercise Won't Help Your Body Image

    2. How You Ended Up Holding Sex for Ransom

    3. The Surprising Solution to Self-Consciousness

    4. What Scientific Studies Reveal about the Bodies Men Prefer

    Section Two: Preparing for the Sex Life You Deserve

    5. Cultivating Sensuality In and Out of the Bedroom

    6. Tune In So You Can Turn On

    7. Novel Ways of Raising Your Libido

    Section Three: How to Unplug Your Thoughts and Resurrect Your Love Life

    8. How to Take Your Mind Off Your Body During Sex

    9. Using Sexual Competence to Build Body Confidence

    10. Tabasco Talk vs. Negative Talk

    11. Sexually Fantasizing Your Way Out of Appearance Anxiety

    12. Playing with Power

    Section Four: Keeping Yourself Safe for Sex

    13. What to Do When a Friend, a Date, or Your Partner Criticizes Your Looks

    14. What Your Partner Can Do to Help

    15. Maintaining a Sexy Future

    Bibliography

    Acknowledgments

    About the Author